Tid★Bits Magazine Fall 2012
Thursday, November 1, 2012
In this issue:
- 10 Tips to Build Children's Confidence & Self-Esteem
- Food Allergies: Symptoms to Serious Reactions
- Activity Suggestions: Olympic Ideas
- Poison Patrol: Attractive Hazards
- Hospital News: New Children's Pavilion
- Children & Dieting: Tips for Parents
10 Tips to Build Children's Confidence & Self-Esteem
Encouraging children to be considerate and confident and to feel good about themselves is an important and challenging responsibility. With the stress and pressure associated with beginning a new school year, here are some tips to help children build self-confidence and develop positive self-esteem now and throughout the year:
- Be Respectful. Children learn how to interact with others from watching those closest to them. Model treating others the way that you would like to be treated.
- Listen. Set time aside to talk about how things are going. Pay careful attention when children share concerns. Children will be more likely to discuss issues and practice verbal problem solving when they know that adults will take time to help them in this regard.
- Be a trustworthy authority figure. Make decisions that demonstrate care and concern. Children benefit from having structure and consistent, non-physical consequences for any misbehavior.
- Find out what children like to do and, when feasible, do it. We all have our own personalities and specific interests. It is often easier to learn and master something we truly enjoy.
- Discuss topics such as bullying and abuse. Provide information geared towards children?s level of understanding. Share that adults will intervene to provide protection from harmful situations.
- Model and teach compromise and cooperating with others. Share basic information about efforts adults make to work with others. Encourage children to participate in group activities.
- Discuss that everyone makes mistakes. Provide constructive feedback regarding what can be done differently next time. Let children know when you make mistakes and what you did to deal with these situations. If you make a mistake when interacting with your children, admit this and apologize.
- Show affection freely. Make sure to let children know your positive feelings, both verbally and through your behaviors.
- Stay actively engaged even when things are stressful. Sometimes it may seem easier to avoid painful interactions. It?s fine to take a break when everyone is highly upset and may have a hard time talking about a particular topic. After a calm-down period, it is helpful to continue to discuss and make a plan to handle tough situations.
- Let children know you love them no matter what!
by Dr. Josie Castaldi, Licensed Clinical Psychologist
The Psychology Department at Children?s Hospital of Richmond at VCU offers individual and family therapy and psychological, neuropsychological and psycho-educational evaluations. Services are provided by licensed clinical psychologists who specialize in the psychological needs of children and adolescents. Brook Road Campus Appointments: 804-228-5818